The sex is good, he makes you laugh and when you need to be treated like a Queen he is always by your side. However, you adult dating relationship – just like many other things in life – is far from perfect. If he is the type of guy to constantly call, text or email you to ask where you are and demand your daily schedule, he is insecure. If he is constantly claiming you are cheating, partying too much, or doing things that you really aren’t, he is insecure.

You man is suffering from the classic case of “insecure boyfriend”. Maybe he feels like you are too good for him and you could leave him at any moment (that would explain why he tries to guilt you and break you down for things you haven’t even done). Maybe he has never experienced a real, good, solid relationship before and all of his ex girlfriends are psycho and they treated him like a horrible little boy until his ego had been shatter and whittled down like a piece of drift wood. This problem can be harder to solve mainly because he doesn’t know right from wrong in a relationship. Technically it isn’t his fault that all of his exes treated him like shit.

Now, here is what you can do to help solve the problem. Help re-build his ego. Tell him that he is amazing in bed. Tell him and reward him when he does something good for you. Yes, this is a form of Pavlovian conditioning, but you’d be surprised at how well it works. Humans respond well when they get good feedback and a reward. Eventually take away the reward and your man should be in good shape, or at least better shape. Good luck!

 

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