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Why Are Men So Afraid Of Commitment?
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by Stan Getter
in Adult dating, Advice, Attention, Dating, Future, Insecurity, Married, Sex, Single people
Us men love our freedom. The idea of being tied down to one woman for the rest of our lives is enough to send us running for the hills. When we think of commitment, we think of having to compromise, loss of independence, loss of sexual variety and the possibility of a downward financial spiral.
According to the National Marriage Project, a study undertaken at Rutgers University, men today are overwhelmingly apprehensive about getting married.
The number of men getting married is on the decrease and the number of men in cohabitation adult dating relationships are on the uprise. So why is this happening?
Men Are Extremely Independent By Nature
The idea of losing some our freedom, not being able to live by our own rules and having to share those ideals with someone else just sounds like a rain on our parade. No longer can we sit at home and watch sports on our big screen TVs in just our boxers and dirty white socks. Our women expect more of us.
Loss Of A Personal Bubble
Why do you think men have their own personal “man caves” away from their wives and family. It is because we need our personal space. When we move in with women, everything gets the “female” treatment. We are perfectly happy sitting in a room with white walls and cheap drapes, but women always want to paint with colors called ” muted fog”. What the hell is muted fog? And the frilly curtains? Don’t get me started on anything frilly.
One Sex Partner, For Life
Men are sexual beings. We view sex as a necessity in life. If we can’t have sex, that is a bad situation. The idea of only being able to have sex with the same person for the rest of our lives is scary. Sure, we love our girlfriends and wives, but we are aware that sex goes downhill after years of being together, not uphill. Its hard to look forward to something that everyone has already written off as a negative. We need variety!
Discussing Your Future
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If you’ve been in an adult dating relationship for a while, you may want to start discussion future options with your boyfriend. This is perfectly normal and also encouraged, but be careful how you approach the situation. You don’t want to scare the poor boy away. After all, if you really do see a future with this guy then its only fair that you have the right to find out if he’s looking for the same things as you in the future. Read my tips on how to discuss the future without scaring your boyfriend away.
1. Star the conversation by asking what your boyfriend wants. He won’t be scared away by the conversation if you’re asking him how he sees himself in 5, 10, 15 years. You’re letting him talk about his future, and that way you can get an idea based on what he decides to talk about. Don’t ever start a conversation by telling him what you want and what you expect. Then he may be scared away if he isn’t looking for the same things or he may feel that he can’t live up to your standards.
2. Don’t be upset if your boyfriend has no idea what he wants from his future. Most men aren’t too concerned with the future and are more concerned with the present. Expect that his answer to your question will be “I don’t know“. Just talk about things that make him happy. Ask him about his opinion on where your relationship is headed.
3. These questions will probably make your boyfriend nervous. After all, you are putting him on the spot. Lighten the mood by telling him you feel nervous about it too and are also confused about the future and thats why you want to discuss it with him. If you tell your boyfriend what you want “in the next few years”, it won’t make him feel pressured in the situation. Phrases like “in the next few years” will make him feel like he has a lot of time to decide and nothing new is happening soon.